A common misconception about a mature
relationship is that it happens at a certain age. Age has nothing to do with
maturity, even if you are 15. It is all about how you learn and settle yourself
according to those lessons.
Relationships are often thought of as a
picture perfect fairytale where your whole life is like the honeymoon phase.
When everything is all flowers and rainbows. Whereas, relationships do not feel
like it, initially, and that initial shock takes many of us by surprise. A
relationship, before it becomes all flowers and rainbows, has to go through a
tough time. This is the period where all of your efforts are tried and tested.
If you are going through this phase, then read along because this might help
you figure out if what you are going through a deal breaker or a forever-thing.
1. Mature relationships do
not have insecurities
A relationship that has insecurities means
either one of you does not trust your partner entirely. You do not trust them
with your shortcomings and the dark corners of your life. You will always be
scared if you have insecurities which will stop you and your partner from being
the true version of yourself. That’s what a mature relationship is about,
accepting what your partner is and letting yourself be genuine with them.
2. Immature relationships
look at the past
Immature relationships keep looking back in
each other’s past while partners in a mature relationship will always look to
the future. Everyone has a past and everyone’s past is supposed to stay in the
past. Bringing it up every time you fight will only make things worse and will
add the element of comparison to your healthy relationship.
By comparing your partner with your Ex or vice
versa, you are just crushing or being crushed by the weight of the unmet
expectations and the constant “want” to be like someone else. Soon, this
feeling will turn into rebelliousness because after all, only you can be the
true version of your own self. Even if you pretend, you can only pretend for a
while and switch back to your own self. Thus, true partners will have this
understanding of letting the other person be themselves and not try to make
them LIKE someone.
3. Mature relationships
don’t let others drive their relationship
There are many times when we find ourselves
lost in a relationship and we run to our closest, most trusted friend for help.
Sometimes, their advices work and other times they make things work. The point
is that it is always good to take a third person’s opinion if you are not sure
of what you are doing but don’t let that be the driving force for your
relationship. No one knows your partner better than you and no one can really
tell you what to do to fix ˜your’ relationship. Take a few advices on board but
only after evaluating them closely go with your gut feeling. As they say,
follow your heart.
4. In an immature
relationship, things need to be asked
A mature relationship will feel like a puzzle
solving its own self. You do have to put in effort but a lot of your
expectations will start being met automatically because in a mature
relationship, people understand each other’s needs and wants!
A mature relationship will always get you what
you need first while an immature one will always focus on the wants. Also, in
immature relationships, most partners are always arguing on what they expect
and want from their partner.
5. Mature relationship cues
all your apprehensions
“Is he out right not? Will he cheat like the
others?” Mature relationships will automatically work as a healing potion
for all the heart break. I cant truly explain the exact thing that makes you
go, ˜aaah! Why couldn’t other people you have been with in a relationship get
this’, even if you’ve been a certain way with your previous partners, you will
be completely different with a this one. You will be able to trust and support
your partner fully and also be able to appreciate this satisfaction and peace
of mind you get from not over thinking too much like you have been doing in all
your past relationships.
Lastly, a mature relationship will actually
make you feel like true love exists and that you have a chance at that. Mature
relationship will treat you nicely. No one gets there in one day or the
first time, it will take its own sweet time but it will eventually happen. Just
keep your heart and mind open to accept changes and to accept your partner the
way he/she is.
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